5 tips on how to dating with herpes for women?
It is so hard to get out there and meet new people for people with herpes, especially for women, and it may seem overwhelming with our given condition, BUT! it is important to not misrepresent yourself, especially if you are looking for a successful, lasting relationship. It is so easy to fall into the trap, even in offline dating but especially in a situation like this, where we are presenting people with a modified version of yourself that we think will suit their tastes or align with their interests.
The fact is, this person is going to meet you eventually, and it is important that you are who you are and that you don't pull a big surprise on them ("I love hiking, too!" becomes "I would hike more if my knees didn't hurt" becomes "I don't really like hiking", etc.) If you don't like hiking, just say so! It is so crucial to not try to hide who you are or sugarcoat yourself or your lifestyle.
We are all really cool and there are complementary people for us out there, so just make sure that you don't feel so cornered by this situation that you allow yourself to settle for what you don't want, or present yourself as something you don't want to be. You don't have to be alone after having herpes, several tips for you to start your dating again.
1. Confidence is the key.
If you can overcome it in your head then you will have no problems dating with herpes. People are a lot more understanding than we want to believe sometimes.
2. Don't be afraid to be yourself.
Accepting yourself is a must before dating someone whatever stds you currently are living with. Don't pretend to be something that your not. You are beautiful, and you're alive. Don't lie to your potential partners about who you are. You will just make yourself miserable.
3. Join a support community or herpes dating site.
Yes, it's not easy to find a partner on the street or in the bar. Joining a community or dating sites for people with herpes is a great way to start your dating. The people with the similar situation will have more understanding on what you are suffering. And what's more, if two people have the same kind of STD, it won't let you get another one.
4. Keep a positive attitude.
It's pretty traumatic when you know you got herpes. And it is traumatic for most people, so it's not like you're alone. Don't let it get you down because you can still have fun! If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. The positive attitude affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but it also affects the people you are dating with.
5. Keep safe.
Even when you have met a potential partner that is aware of your STD and possibly has the same STD, do not forget about other types of transmittable diseases and illnesses out there. It is still important for both of you to be tested for other types of STD's before you have sexual contact.
We are all really cool and there are complementary people for us out there, so just make sure that you don't feel so cornered by this situation that you allow yourself to settle for what you don't want, or present yourself as something you don't want to be.
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